FTM anxious about giving birth and my MIL
*UPDATE Thank you all for the advice. I’ve already started distancing myself from all the calls and texts. I think she caught on immediately after a day lol. She called my SO while we were both home last night and after I’d ignored her last 4 calls and texts. She invited us to dinner and we declined and his parents showed up at our door… these people are relentless. I tried to make it obvious that I’m very tired, resting and just getting ready for my baby at the house. I made a birth plan, so it is no secret it will be my mom and SO in delivery room. Also, no visitors until I am ready. I questioned my SO about his mother wanting to be in the waiting room the whole time and he said ‘she just wants to be there for me because of what happened to her.’ I just rolled my eyes like okay that is nice but I don’t need this woman she’s not my mommy. Me and my SO talked about it so he knows what I want. I’m not sure how it’s all going to play out when I actually go into labor, but I plan on sticking to my boundaries and using the word NO. Thank you all for the help!
FTM anxious about giving birth and my in-laws I am 37 weeks pregnant and so excited to meet my baby girl! This post mainly applies to my MIL but my fiancés whole family plays a role in this also. I am mostly worried about going into labor and delivery and the involvement of my MIL at the hospital. She has been calling and texting me multiple times a day to “check in” and I’m worried the second we go to the hospital, his whole family is going to freak out and try to be there ASAP. I have told my fiancé that I only want him and my mom in the room for delivery. Even though my family is 7 hours away, they are going to try to get here as soon as they can. Im really not sure what my MIL thinks but she’s definitely not allowed in the room. She has mentioned that she is going to be right outside the door the whole time (I’m hoping that isn’t allowed)… I am worried about what happens after baby is delivered. Is she going to be allowed in the room right away? I know I want skin to skin alone time with my fiancé and our daughter but when is a reasonable time to allow his family in the room? I am freaking out. It sounds like all of his aunts, uncles, grandmas and cousins plan on coming to the hospital and I don’t plan on allowing them to visit in the room. I’m just not sure how it all works. Say I’m in labor for 12+ hours, are they all going to sit at the hospital and just wait? I’ve also heard horror stories of the mother going into emergency c-section and the family was already in the room meeting baby before the mom woke up!! This is my fear! I’m not even sure when I would be okay to allow my dad and sister in the room.. I imagine it would be a few hours after I deliver and feel ready but I’m not sure how the timeline will play out. As a FTM, can anyone please give me guidance on how to navigate this before it happens!